It's with no small chagrin as a female to hear the commentary coming from the trans-community about how every man who ever put on a dress has become a "trans-women" and so fallen victim to one of their latest creations, "trans-misogyny!" Because at it's heart even the very concept of this new beast, the "trans-misogyny" has to be the penultimate and yet quite ironic expression of what misogyny really means. Or as seen to the women of the world? Men simply going about exercising their Male Privilege!
Oh no! Not us! Never! We don't have any stinking Male Privilege! Oh really? Me thinks that by saying that it becomes case in point... How else do you explain that when even the idea of Male Privilege and it's inappropriateness to being female is brought to the TG table. Rather than saying "Obviously so, and a nasty bit of business that Male Privilege is and a bloody hell to try and get rid of, but get rid of it we must!" Male Privilege is immediately discounted as in no way applying to them! No no NO! These recently men NEVER experienced any sort of Male Privilege! O-h n-o! Why, just look at our history! We were always the ones picked on and we were called names! We were odd ducks and never the captains of the football league, We never dated the cheerleaders! Not us nope not us! We were never given that access to the golden escalator of quick success that the "privileged men had! No no no! Can't you silly women see how wrong you are to say something so hurtful to us? We never had any of that Male Privilege business you are prattling on about what-so-ever! Clearly you're full of beans and more to for you to say something as outrageous as our having had any sort of... "Male Privilege!"
So why would your saying that make this a case in point? Because it is clearly evident by your action and your words that when you hear the term Male Privilege, as all males do, you assume, because of your inculcated blindness to Male Privilege as part of you very being, that any sort of "Male Privilege" MUST mean that greater privilege exercised by the alpha males you are not! So clearly the females must be wrong as they always are! Male Privilege could not possibly apply to you!
Not so my little ones! Not so at all!
Male Privilege, in the circular nature of many social concepts, both the end product of misogyny, and the root of it! Misogyny here being plain and simple, the blanket acceptance by society and it's rule of thumb, that women are and always will be of lesser value than men.
So where does something this odious begin? How does it happen? Simple, the granting of Male Privilege starts at the moment of a birth... When the Good Doctor says... It's a boy! A great sigh of relief is had by one and all! Ahhh it's not the birth of a girl but the blessed birth of a son! The father is to be congratulated for his superior performance in ejaculations and the mother will be adored before getting to work for what she has brought forth from her male blessed body! Yes! Another male has taken breath and with that, the world is just a little brighter!
From day one, even down to the choice of blanket colors, the treatment of this male will be quite different than the treatment of any female... He is going to be given huge amounts of leeway to explore his world. A freedom she will never know. He will be rewarded again and again for his being bold and curious! Not so with the female child... while she will be as loved as he, she will be reigned in, in by that love! Her world is to be one that will be confined and it will be defined by the fact that one day she will, God willing, be impregnated by a man so she can produce more males! From day one, with that "inevitability" in mind, even if it is unconsciously done. First from her mother and then from every other female she interacts with, and till the day she dies, if she in anyway acts as a male does she will hear quickly and clearly "No no no Sweetie! Good girls don't do that!" Oh sure! She will be allowed to explore her world... but with clear limits on both the world and what she can explore! She will be praised for her being curious...but with clear limits to how curious and about what! She will be loved and she will and cherished, just as the male child, but unlike him, she will be watched and monitored in everything she does! His freedom to be and do as he wishes is something she will never know! Her every move, unlike his is going to be judged, weighted and evaluated as she is in the process of being groomed to become what she will...the valued possession of a male, the bearer of his children!
Think me daft? I dare you to wrap any baby all in pink, do so and I guarantee the comments will be about how pretty "she is!" Wrap the same baby in blue and the comments will switch completely to how smart or strong or handsome he is! Male Privilege is that deeply woven into the fabric of our lives because a females value is and it seems always will be first and foremost placed upon her being attractive to males! She as the female and the one who is to be inseminated by them and as the one who will bear his children. She MUST be pretty to his eye so she can attract only the best males to produce more of them. Pretty being a value which while it rules her life does not hurt any male of the species, but unlike her's is far from a necessity to his continuity!
From day one, the male child will be taught over and over and over that he as a male is the center of the universe... that all things in this world revolve round him... That he is to be the lord and master of earth and sky and all between and he is to be given dominion over all he sees as is God's (a male) Plan! And he will take this knowledge into his being and he will make it so! His very thinking about himself and his world, added by the handy dandy compartmentalization of the male mind that testosterone adds, will easily accept this information as being the natural state of all things and the lens throuh which the world is seen! This natural law that men are on top women are on the bottom clearly becomes the way things were intended and there is no need of any further discussion about it! Got it?... Meanwhile, the inverse of that is happening to the female... She is being gently but persistently taught she is a lesser human, that she must compliment the males, she must cheer them on and she must take care of them, she must adore them as her better and she must always place their needs above her's. Always! She is in the process of being groomed to become a males helpmeat and much as we would like to deny it, but it is what it is, to become his chattel. Man is the owner... Woman is the possession!
Enter the TG... men who are wanting for many reasons, in some measure to "be" contrary to what is expected of them as men, to be somewhat feminine! Quite the leap isn't it? From dominator to dominated? From master of the universe to his possession? Particularly when the one doing the jump has supped soooo long and sooooo deeply from the cup of his rightful Male Privilege? So does the TG in transit headed to womanhood set about undoing a lifetime of his ill gotten privilege as he sets about removing body parts which are male so he can be womanly and in the end female like all the others?" Are you fucking kidding me or what? Let go of all that goodness and pleasure? Oh NO! Wait, that's not just a big NO but a HELL NO! Hey! I know! We're born men right? Lets just keep right on doing as we have done our entire lives! We know how to do get things done without even thinking about it! So when we are faced with pesky realities we don't like, well we just change em to suit our needs! Is woman problematic? Then simply do what you have done all your life and redefine what's "a woman" to suit your needs! And if that means you are a "trans-woman" but still have that little penis and naturally, you love that little sucker? Well no worries! No Sirre Bob! Women can have a penis if they want to right? No? Really they can't? No? They don't? Well by God they sure as hell do when A MAN and a master of his world says they do! As for any of this nonsense of getting treated like women do by other men, other than the niceties that feed the fantasy? Oh NO way in hell...Not on YOUR watch you ain't Bub! Why YOU ran this place for umteen thousand years and YOU know how things work round here and while YOU may let some guy hold the door for YOU and say Ma'am cause it's fun. There is no way, no how, any man ever going to one up YOU!
On and on it goes... from the most basic in manspaling by the muddling the topic with "Gender Expression" rather than the easy to define sex, to creating all sorts of hierarchies of "trans" and then as men do to prove their prowess, by besting these hierarchies ! To their revamping the scale women are measured against, so that "trans-women" like YOU, get the get that all important get out of jail free "man card" when you play at being female, and of course it goes without saying that unlike the three and a half billion born female. NO WAY are YOU going to be judged on YOUR looks.... Course that may not have been an issue if you rated about a 0.02 on a scale of one to ten... ok that was a gimme... if you would ALLOW yourself with your Male Privilege to be rated, but you won't, it would be far lower... But never mind, you as a rightful holder of Male Privilege, there is no way, no how is that ever going to happen to YOU! You are never going to be at the bottom of any stinking scale remotely related to... Shudder... females, like their looks!! (despite your having judged women by that same scale for sixty some years)
You, born a male are going to be sure to exercise your Male Privilege to it's full extent as is your God Given Right!... So clearly you don't want to be taken as female so you are going to be out and proud and clearly, a man in a dress! Oppise! I mean a trans-woman in a dress to be reckoned with! And in the process of you redefining the world to suit you and in your removing all these nasty trans-phobic barriers in your way? You are going to be damn sure about educating the world (your word not mine) that despite your many pretty if muddy words to the contrary about your gender this and your trans-that, that no matter if you look somewhat female, you my Dear, along with everyone else in this continuum who might have been born a male but who "transitioned" is despite any choice in dress and any surgeries and any successful ruse to the contrary... is still a man!
Way to go dudes!
Sunday, September 9, 2012
Liz over at Notes from the T side did a bang up job of presenting the story of Convicted Murderer and Sociopath Robert Michelle Kosilek, and his being granted order of a "Sex Change" by U.S. District Court Chief Judge Mark Wolf. (the male pronoun is uses solely here as it was used in this decision!) Her reaction, as well as Miz Know It All's reaction seem to be in line with most of the world judging by the thousand upon thousands of commentary's that have followed this audacious ruling!
We are outraged!
Why? because the man who coldly acted out this murder is in fact a monster! Robert Losilek, "Loving Husband" that he was, garroted his wife in cold blood! For those who don't fully grasp what that means... he, Robert, premeditatedly came up behind his wife, wire in his hands. He reached round her, wrapped the wire tight round her neck and then pulled it tighter still, cutting into her neck and shutting off her air supply... He then held onto that wire hard as he could, while she struggled for her life, as one would assume as it is the natural response rather violently! When at last she had finally died. all the weight of her body hanging there by that wire, he drug her still warm body out of the house and with no ceremony, dumped her body like garbage into the trunk of her car. Where upon he drove her car to a mall parking lot and left it and her to be found by others while he took a cab home. He then called police the next day to say she how worried he was as she had "disappeared!" Poof! "Oh my! My wife is gone! Dear oh dear me!" He had no more remorse in playing the poor suffering husband that he did in killing her. "Where oh where is my dear dear wife gone! Oh where or where can she be!"Boo hoo!
Clearly torn up by the loss and what we could assume was some restraint upon his "Gender Expression," while they searched for her cold and stiffing body, he proceeded to sage his grief by indulgingin in a big O'l buying spree of women's clothing and cosmetics! Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Hey she may be gone, sniff sniff, but the world didn't stop turning and you know, gurls just want-a have fun!
Morally and Socially? I believe that Robert Losilek forfeited any and all of his rights as a citizen the moment he wrapped that wire round his wife's neck and tightened it.! It was a horrible and malicious act for which he was convicted of in a court of law. An act so horrible and heinous that he was given the maximum possible punishment allowed. As Massachusetts does not have provisions for Capital Punishment, which in this case would have been given without a second thought in any state that had it. The maximum allowable punishment meant life in prison with no chance of parole. Robert Losilek was rightly removed from society as the blight he is to sit in a cell and rot till the day he dies!
Now Miz Know It All is all for sane incarceration and reform... She and many others believe that in an enlightened culture, there should be provisions made for the guilty to make restitution for the crime so they can return as functional members of society, but not in this case! Why? Because it is impossible This man was and he still is a sociopath! He is completely remorseless for the crime and utterly incapable of any such a thing as remorse for anyone but himself... Robert, now Michelle, will do anything and I do mean anything to get what he wants! There is no amount of discomfort, inconvenience pain or suffering by others that could possibly be of the least concern to him as long as he has what he wants. Which meant back then, that if perchance he thought his loving wife might have stood between him and "the expression of his gender" by emptying their bank accounts to play dress up? Well there was a far far easier answer than to leave, divorce, and start over! Why just Snuff the Bitch! No muss no fuss! Easy Peasy! Problem solved and you get to collect the insurance money too!
Now laying aside the issue of his "gender expression" because, despite my anger and sense of injustice as a woman with a history and the fact that having read all 129 pages, the ruling was just, it really is NOT important! What IS important here for anyone born with this curse is this monster, has by this lawsuit and the publicity that followed the ruling become the test case / poster-child of what it means to be transsexual!" He, Roberty Michelle Losilek has became a real life Buffalo Bill from the what one had hoped till now was the fictional, "Silence of the Lambs" Robert Michelle Losilek is now the face of what it means to be transsexual in the minds of millions!!
"It rubs the lotion on it's skin or it gets the hose again!"
So how in Gods name can this be seen in "our community," not as the pyrrhic victory it was but as I actually saw it called in more than one blog, "A Good Thing?"
Really? A good thing? Is the level of disconnect from reality about how we are perceived and the tenuous self-delusion of "acceptance" that high? Where is the sense of outrage that this subhuman creature"represents" us? Don't any of you realize that with every retelling of this horrible tale, and there will be many for years to come, that the likelihood of a backlash grows? That in the eyes of the public, we have become JUST LIKE HIM! Demented freaks who pose a very real danger to them?
Think me wrong? The judge’s decision also provoked an uproar at the State House, where State Senate Minority Leader Bruce Tarr and 49 other lawmakers sent a letter to the state correction commissioner, urging him to appeal Wolf’s ruling!
Don't you get it? This sort of thing galvanizes people into action. Actions, not for the good, rather actions which will limit, halt or even reverse ANY and ALL progress towards normalization of transsexuality! And in this deeply divided election season, with the very real possibility that the most radical right wing ticket since the Taliban might gain control of the US in entirety... This bit of "good news" was the LAST thing that any child born transsexual needed to have added to their plate!